Friday, 22 July 2011

How to Fix a Complicated Relationship

Are you in a relationship? Well, yes… but it’s complicated! Sounds familiar… huh? Well, it seems complicated relationships are the order of the day. It is pathetic but most people are really having hard times with their relationships and all that they can say about it is… it’s complicated! In this post, I want to share with you about how to fix complicated relationships. We will also look at some remedies to complicated relationships or what you must do if you have complications in your current relationship or should you find yourself in one in the future. Keep reading…

What is a complicated relationship? The Essential English Dictionary defines the word complicated as, “difficult to analyze or understand.” The word complicated can also be used to describe a problematical situation. A relationship is formed through mutual agreement between at least two people. Relationships always start off via mutual agreement between the partners involve. The partners jointly make the conscious decision to stay or be together, sharing each other’s pain and joy. When two people are in a relationship, or ‘in love,’ it is usually a “me and you against the world” kind of thing. Isn’t that beautiful? Well it is, until Mr. Complicated sets in, and when he comes, he turns every sweet thing into sour and blows off every fire of love. In a nutshell, a complicated relationship is one in which the partners had lost the Memorandum of Understanding (MOU) which was created at the beginning of the relationship, and thus find themselves disagreeing on the very things which brought them together in the first place.

Why complicated relationships? As mentioned above, misunderstanding between partners is the main cause of complicated relationships. No relationship starts off as complicated. Complications are like thorns or obstacles on the road that leads to true love. These obstacles if dealt with properly create a stronger bond between the partners and help to create a healthy relationship. Another cause of complicated relationships is disappointment. For example:

“Girl meets boy… and girl falls deeply.
Boy feels nothing… but plays along anyway.
A relationship sparks up not long.

Boy is just playing along
But girl is head-over-heels in love.
Boy fakes his love.

Girl eventually finds out
Girl feels hurt and disappointed
Boy is unconcerned…and walks out

Boy says, “Life still goes on”
But girl still want to hang on
So ‘it’s complicated!’

How do I fix a complicated relationship? The sure way to fix a relationship that is complicated is to walk out of it. I know it is hard for most people, especially, ladies, to just walk out of a complicated relationship. However, that is the best thing to do to straighten up things.

Walking out of a complicated relationship is a double win affair and hanging on to it is an inversely a double loose affair. Walking out is double win in the sense that relationships break at one point in order to be stronger later in the future. You never know what you have until it is gone. How can I miss you if you don’t go away? Allowing space in a relationship helps the partners to realize the importance of the other person and in the case of complicated relationships, breaking off guarantees a strong comeback because he/she will now realize your value and make them want to have more of you. Again, walking out of a complicated relationship makes the heartbreak heal as fast as possible enabling you to relook at life with a renewed sense of hope and embrace new opportunities.

In contrast, hanging on to a complicated relationship can be very deadly because they’ll never see and accept you for who you are. Remember, “How can I miss you if you don’t go away?” In fact, hanging on to a dying relationship simply means allowing your heart to be broken over and over again. This is very dangerous. You will eventually become emotionally numb and insensitive which could have a negative bearing on your future relationships. Personally, I don’t believe in complicated relationships. To me, you’re either in or you’re out! You are either in a relationship or you are single. There is nothing in between the two – it is as simple as that!

Hello friend, you deserve better. In fact, you deserve the very best so accept nothing less. Your portion is not a complicated relationship but a healthy and invigorating one. Don’t get yourself trapped in anything you can’t be proud of. Set yourself loosed and break off from that pain. Yes you can! Never settle for anything less. You’re God’s child, “fearfully and wonderfully made.” You deserve the very best! Always remember, “Every good gift and every perfect gift is from above, and cometh down from the Father of lights, with whom is no variableness, neither shadow of turning.” – James 1:17.

I hope the ideas shared in this post will help you fix any complicated relationship that you find yourself in. Thank you for reading. Blessings to you! Let me know what you think about this post on how to fix a complicated relationship by posting a comment below.
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