How To Stay Pure Until Marriage...Yes, It's Possible!

A decision stay pure until marriage includes abstaining from sex and also abstaining from anything that has the tendency of preventing you from living up to your promise of purity. What this means is that, you must do away with friends who will not help you in your commitment to purity.

Also, entertainment resources such as music, movies, games and all entertainment materials with the propensity to make you fall into sexual acts of any kind must surely be neglected. For example, I would not recommend songs by Rihanna, Beyonce, Lady gaga and their like, to anybody who is serious about staying pure until marriage. Most of the songs of these artists are full of sex lyrics and complemented by videos packed with countless sex scenes, mind control objects and symbolism.

God’s Word is clear on this, “For this is the will of God, [for] your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality;  that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor,  not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God” – 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5.

Elsewhere in the scriptures God asked, “For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God.” – 2 Corinthians 6:14b-16 NKJV.
To be able hold tight to our commitment to purity, we must avoid all persons and anything that is not aimed at helping us stay pure until marriage in honour of God, our family, our future spouse and ourselves.

The Complete Purity Guide For All Christians

When people talk about purity, they mostly refer to sexuality purity. Of course, sexual purity constitutes a large portion of the purity journey. However, Christian purity extends far beyond just sexual purity. One may not see the big picture if he/she is outside the purity box. But as soon as you decide to stay pure until marriage, you will realize that such commitment really goes beyond abstaining from sex. In this post, we will look at what purity is, and what it encompasses.
 

What is Purity?

Purity, also referred to as Christian purity, is a Christian virtue that requires believers to make commitment or promise to abstain from sex until marriage. As mentioned earlier, abstaining from sex is a principal component of purity. However upon taking that decision, it becomes evident to the individual that to be successful in abstaining from sex, he/she must abstain from anything else that would lead him/her to fall prey to sex.

Purity is an honorable virtue. It is honorable because it brings honor to God, your family, your future spouse, and yourself. Consider the following scriptures in relation to the honor that a commitment to purity brings to God, your family, your future spouse and yourself, in that order:

“For this is the will of God, [for] your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality” – 1 Thessalonians 4:3 NKJV

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.  Honor thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise” – Ephesians 6:1-2 KJV.

“Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.” – Proverbs 31:10 KJV.

“Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.” – Proverbs 31:30 NKJV.

Of all the purity scriptures listed above, my favorite is Proverbs 31. It helps us to understand that although a commitment to stay sexually pure until marriage brings honor to God (1 Thess. 4:3), your family (Eph. 6:1-2), and your future spouse (Proverbs 31:10), the greatest honor comes to you. “Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.” – Proverbs 31:30.

What is a Purity Ring?

Purity Rings are rings worn by people as an outward sign or symbol to show their inward commitment to stay sexually pure until marriage in honor of God, their family, their future spouse and most significantly to bring honor to themselves.

Most purity rings have purity scriptures engraved on them. They serve as reminders and daily puts the individual in remembrance of his/her commitment to purity. Most purity rings are for girls, but there are also purity rings for guys. A purity ring is worn on the ring finger on the left hand. The idea behind this choice of finger is that, the ring is to be worn until marriage and it symbolizes marriage to God. Purity rings are replaced by the wedding ring when the individual finally gets married. The joyful task of most girls who wear purity rings is to give it to their husbands on their wedding day. Isn’t that beautiful?

Why We Must Stay Sexually Pure Until Marriage

The Crocodile likes water, but not when the water is boiling. Sex, like fire, can be very good and also very destructive; depending on how it is used. During cold weathers fire is kept in a home to keep it warm. Taking the fire out of its place and placing it somewhere else in the home could spark up a great fire which could burn the entire house into ashes.

Similarly, sex outside marriage (or premarital sex) is equally dangerous. Pre-marital sex is simply sex taken out of its place – marriage. It has the same effect as fire taken out of its place. The Bible has a better view on this, it said, “For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread…” – Proverbs 6:26. If by a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread, then I believe the opposite is also true: by a means of whorish man, a woman is brought to a piece of bread. Stories of beautiful and reputable women been ‘used and dumped’ by treacherous men, are common in our societies today.

Who is a whorish woman? She is any woman (girl or lady) who is not your wife. Other Bible versions translated the ‘whorish woman’ as ‘strange woman’. Elsewhere in the Proverbs book of the Bible, we see the strange woman and what she can do:

“Discretion shall preserve thee, understanding shall keep thee… To deliver thee from the strange woman, even from the stranger which flattereth with her words; which forsaketh the guide of her youth, and forgetteth the covenant of her God. For her house inclineth unto death, and her paths unto the dead. None that go unto her return again, neither take they hold of the paths of life.” –­ Proverbs 2:11, 16-19 (KJV).

Usually when people hear the word whorish, the first thought that comes to mind is a prostitute, right? Well it should be noted that any woman who have sex with another man other than their husband is a whorish woman. In this context the closest whorish woman to you could be your girlfriend if sex is involved in the relationship. Sex should never be the foundation of the relationship.

Dear ladies, if sex is what your man needs to stay with you, then I can assure 100% that he will still leave even if you give it to him. I am not making up any new theories about this, it is a fact. What makes you different from the ‘other girls’ if he can get from you what he got from them? Here’s the real gist: why should he marry you if he is freely enjoying the privileges of a married man from you?

A decision to stay sexually pure until marriage will make men respect you, and when you finally meet the right man for you, he will love you like never before. I once overheard two guys talking and one said to the other “Do you think I am going to marry one of these ‘club girls?’” I was saddened as I thought about whose daughter in the world is being referred as a ‘club girl’ by these young men? Then the guy continued, “Come on, I will go to the Church and find a better wife.” That statement really struck me. Mercy for the ladies at Church, may God give you eyes to see this young man for who he really is when he finally arrives at your Church.

Dear gentlemen, we will be doing ourselves much good if we stay sexually pure until marriage. The Word of God is clear;

“For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the[his] precious life. Can a man take fire in his bosom and his clothes not be burned? Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned? So he that goeth in to his neighbour's wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent.” – Proverbs 6:26-29.

The phrase ‘his neighbour’s wife’ in the above scripture is not only referring to the wife of another man, it encompasses all ‘will be’ wives.

Dating is preparation for marriage. For a fact, not all relationships lead to marriage between the two partners. However, the person you date eventually becomes another person’s wife or husband. Ladies and gentlemen, let’s be honest here; do you find it okay that somebody somewhere should be having sex with and fondling the woman or man that will soon become your wife or husband?

Sex is to be preserved for marriage. God made it that way for a reason. And come to think of it, it is for our own good. We will be doing ourselves much good if we say no to sex and live a sexually pure life until marriage. 


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More on purity? Read the following posts:
The Complete Purity Guide For All Christians
How to Stay Sexually Pure Until Marriage
How To Overcome Sexual Temptations
The Purity Code: A Sexual Code of Conduct