What All Gay People Must Know: The Abnormality of Homosexuality

The problem with homosexuality is that it is unnatural. Assume that you have a daughter who's six (6) years old. Now one day upon returning from work you see this young girl in bed having sex with a man of about 20 years. What will be your immediate reaction? Then to make things worse, imagine you asked your daughter about the incidence and she tells you she's attracted to older men. Would you accept such attraction as normal? Please, let's be realistic. The natural order is for someone of one sex to desire another of the opposite sex. Anything short of that is perverted and unnatural.

Many gays also argue that gay sex is just another sin but that's a weak argument. Every wrongdoing is sin but there are sins that lead unto death and those that do not. Homosexuality is not just a sin but also an abomination. It is detestable and abnormal.

In law, there's a clear distinction between what a crime is and what a tort is even though they are both wrongs committed by people. Crimes are considered heavier than torts because they are wrongs against the whole of humanity and not just one person. For example, murder is considered a crime because it is believed that the murderer is a threat to the entire society and not just the victim. Torts on the other hand, are wrongs against individual persons which does not pose a threat to the entire community. It is the same with homosexuality. Homosexuality is a sin like any other wrong but it is an abominable sin. It is unnatural and

should never be encouraged.

Is being gay a choice or not? I believe it is both a choice and also demonic. Being gay is a demonic perversion of the natural order. Now that is the starting point. The individual has to make the choice weather to satisfy his attraction to another of his/her own kind. A preacher once discovered that he's dispositionally gay but because of his love for Christ, he never satisfied his desires by having sex with a man. As a straight and unmarried guy, I have a high inclination every now and then to go find a girl and have sex with her. But that’s fornication and I know better. Sex was designed for marriage and that is how it has to be. Just because I desire to be with a girl does not mean I should go in for one while unmarried.

So the existence of a proclivity is not justification to satisfy it. If this is the case then the world must brace itself for more surprises because the arguments that would be used to attempt to normalize homosexuality would soon be applied to normalize other abnormalities such as sadism, masochism, pedophilia and misogyny just to mention a few.

Please don’t get me wrong; I don't hate gays, I detest the act of homosexuality just as I don't hate criminals but detest the act of crime. As a Christian, I am, per my beliefs, to love everybody. Now, there's BIG difference between accepting people and accepting their abnormal lifestyles. The church is a place for sinners who consider their ways as sinful and therefore seeking redemption, not sinners who are seeking their sins to be accepted as normal behaviour. Any church that accepts homosexuality as being normal is not worthy of being called a Christian Church because being gay and being a Christian are so divergent that they can never meet. God bless you!

Thrashing The Word ‘Sexy’ Out of The Church

It is quite obvious that we are living in a sex-crazed world. Even our churches are becoming sex-crazed too, it is very pathetic! Most Christian ladies nowadays prefer to be called ‘sexy’ rather than beautiful, modest, intelligent, or virtuous. I often watch with dismay how our Christian sisters get elated when guys tag their Facebook photos with the word ‘sexy’.
 

What does the word ‘sexy’ mean? Well, the last time I checked it means:

“provoking or intended to provoke sexual interest, or feeling sexual interest; aroused” – World English Dictionary.

Dear ladies, when a guy says you’re sexy, what he actually means is that “your appearance is provoking or inviting and makes him want to have sex with you.” As a Christian sister, I don’t think this is something you should be elated about. A Christian must never be happy if his/her appearance ignites a sexual desire in another person who is not his or her spouse. This is why we must watch the dresses we wear and ensure that we are not exposing things that must not be exposed.

While we have no control what others think of us, we do have control over which compliments we endorse. In some cases, the compliment ‘sexy’ does not match our appearance and therefore it is our duty not to endorse or even be thrilled by it.

With all these being said, it must be mentioned here that being sexy itself is not wrong. Sex was created to be enjoyed within the confines of marriage. Any sexual act outside marriage is a sin (see 1 Corinthians 6:18). I stand to be corrected, but I honestly don’t think there is anything wrong with a husband telling his wife she look sexy. God in His wisdom had assigned time and season to everything on earth. Obviously there is a time to look sexy and a time not to look sexy. The time to look sexy is if you are married and it must only be for your spouse and not the outside world. There is also a time to have sex and a time not to have sex. The time to have sex is when you are married and it must be only and only with your spouse. The Bible is quite clear on this; Hebrews 13:4 says:

Marriage is honourable in all, and the bed undefiled: but whoremongers and adulterers God will judge.

1 Thessalonians 4:3 says:

For this is the will of God, even your sanctification, that ye should abstain from fornication.

And 1 Corinthians 6:18-20 says:
Flee fornication. Every sin that a man doeth is without the body; but he that committeth fornication sinneth against his own body. What? know ye not that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost which is in you, which ye have of God, and ye are not your own? For ye are bought with a price: therefore glorify God in your body, and in your spirit, which are God's.

Dear ladies, you are not sexy you are beautiful; the value is not the same. Know your worth and let no one look down on you. You have been fearfully and wonderfully created and chosen to show forth the glory of a great and might God. You are a Princess, the cherished daughter of the King of kings and Lord of lords – the Lord Jesus Christ. So accept nothing less!

Christians are supposed to change the world, but it seems the world is rather changing us. It is time for us to wake up and take our place. Let the brothers from now on learn to give edifying compliments about the ladies, and let the ladies also resolve to dress decently. 

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How To Stay Pure Until Marriage...Yes, It's Possible!

A decision stay pure until marriage includes abstaining from sex and also abstaining from anything that has the tendency of preventing you from living up to your promise of purity. What this means is that, you must do away with friends who will not help you in your commitment to purity.

Also, entertainment resources such as music, movies, games and all entertainment materials with the propensity to make you fall into sexual acts of any kind must surely be neglected. For example, I would not recommend songs by Rihanna, Beyonce, Lady gaga and their like, to anybody who is serious about staying pure until marriage. Most of the songs of these artists are full of sex lyrics and complemented by videos packed with countless sex scenes, mind control objects and symbolism.

God’s Word is clear on this, “For this is the will of God, [for] your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality;  that each of you should know how to possess his own vessel in sanctification and honor,  not in passion of lust, like the Gentiles who do not know God” – 1 Thessalonians 4:3-5.

Elsewhere in the scriptures God asked, “For what fellowship has righteousness with lawlessness? And what communion has light with darkness? And what accord has Christ with Belial? Or what part has a believer with an unbeliever? And what agreement has the temple of God with idols? For you are the temple of the living God.” – 2 Corinthians 6:14b-16 NKJV.
To be able hold tight to our commitment to purity, we must avoid all persons and anything that is not aimed at helping us stay pure until marriage in honour of God, our family, our future spouse and ourselves.

The Complete Purity Guide For All Christians

When people talk about purity, they mostly refer to sexuality purity. Of course, sexual purity constitutes a large portion of the purity journey. However, Christian purity extends far beyond just sexual purity. One may not see the big picture if he/she is outside the purity box. But as soon as you decide to stay pure until marriage, you will realize that such commitment really goes beyond abstaining from sex. In this post, we will look at what purity is, and what it encompasses.
 

What is Purity?

Purity, also referred to as Christian purity, is a Christian virtue that requires believers to make commitment or promise to abstain from sex until marriage. As mentioned earlier, abstaining from sex is a principal component of purity. However upon taking that decision, it becomes evident to the individual that to be successful in abstaining from sex, he/she must abstain from anything else that would lead him/her to fall prey to sex.

Purity is an honorable virtue. It is honorable because it brings honor to God, your family, your future spouse, and yourself. Consider the following scriptures in relation to the honor that a commitment to purity brings to God, your family, your future spouse and yourself, in that order:

“For this is the will of God, [for] your sanctification: that you should abstain from sexual immorality” – 1 Thessalonians 4:3 NKJV

“Children, obey your parents in the Lord: for this is right.  Honor thy father and mother; which is the first commandment with promise” – Ephesians 6:1-2 KJV.

“Who can find a virtuous woman? For her price is far above rubies.” – Proverbs 31:10 KJV.

“Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, But a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.” – Proverbs 31:30 NKJV.

Of all the purity scriptures listed above, my favorite is Proverbs 31. It helps us to understand that although a commitment to stay sexually pure until marriage brings honor to God (1 Thess. 4:3), your family (Eph. 6:1-2), and your future spouse (Proverbs 31:10), the greatest honor comes to you. “Charm is deceitful and beauty is passing, but a woman who fears the LORD, she shall be praised.” – Proverbs 31:30.

What is a Purity Ring?

Purity Rings are rings worn by people as an outward sign or symbol to show their inward commitment to stay sexually pure until marriage in honor of God, their family, their future spouse and most significantly to bring honor to themselves.

Most purity rings have purity scriptures engraved on them. They serve as reminders and daily puts the individual in remembrance of his/her commitment to purity. Most purity rings are for girls, but there are also purity rings for guys. A purity ring is worn on the ring finger on the left hand. The idea behind this choice of finger is that, the ring is to be worn until marriage and it symbolizes marriage to God. Purity rings are replaced by the wedding ring when the individual finally gets married. The joyful task of most girls who wear purity rings is to give it to their husbands on their wedding day. Isn’t that beautiful?

Why We Must Stay Sexually Pure Until Marriage

The Crocodile likes water, but not when the water is boiling. Sex, like fire, can be very good and also very destructive; depending on how it is used. During cold weathers fire is kept in a home to keep it warm. Taking the fire out of its place and placing it somewhere else in the home could spark up a great fire which could burn the entire house into ashes.

Similarly, sex outside marriage (or premarital sex) is equally dangerous. Pre-marital sex is simply sex taken out of its place – marriage. It has the same effect as fire taken out of its place. The Bible has a better view on this, it said, “For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread…” – Proverbs 6:26. If by a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread, then I believe the opposite is also true: by a means of whorish man, a woman is brought to a piece of bread. Stories of beautiful and reputable women been ‘used and dumped’ by treacherous men, are common in our societies today.

Who is a whorish woman? She is any woman (girl or lady) who is not your wife. Other Bible versions translated the ‘whorish woman’ as ‘strange woman’. Elsewhere in the Proverbs book of the Bible, we see the strange woman and what she can do:

“Discretion shall preserve thee, understanding shall keep thee… To deliver thee from the strange woman, even from the stranger which flattereth with her words; which forsaketh the guide of her youth, and forgetteth the covenant of her God. For her house inclineth unto death, and her paths unto the dead. None that go unto her return again, neither take they hold of the paths of life.” –­ Proverbs 2:11, 16-19 (KJV).

Usually when people hear the word whorish, the first thought that comes to mind is a prostitute, right? Well it should be noted that any woman who have sex with another man other than their husband is a whorish woman. In this context the closest whorish woman to you could be your girlfriend if sex is involved in the relationship. Sex should never be the foundation of the relationship.

Dear ladies, if sex is what your man needs to stay with you, then I can assure 100% that he will still leave even if you give it to him. I am not making up any new theories about this, it is a fact. What makes you different from the ‘other girls’ if he can get from you what he got from them? Here’s the real gist: why should he marry you if he is freely enjoying the privileges of a married man from you?

A decision to stay sexually pure until marriage will make men respect you, and when you finally meet the right man for you, he will love you like never before. I once overheard two guys talking and one said to the other “Do you think I am going to marry one of these ‘club girls?’” I was saddened as I thought about whose daughter in the world is being referred as a ‘club girl’ by these young men? Then the guy continued, “Come on, I will go to the Church and find a better wife.” That statement really struck me. Mercy for the ladies at Church, may God give you eyes to see this young man for who he really is when he finally arrives at your Church.

Dear gentlemen, we will be doing ourselves much good if we stay sexually pure until marriage. The Word of God is clear;

“For by means of a whorish woman a man is brought to a piece of bread: and the adulteress will hunt for the[his] precious life. Can a man take fire in his bosom and his clothes not be burned? Can one go upon hot coals, and his feet not be burned? So he that goeth in to his neighbour's wife; whosoever toucheth her shall not be innocent.” – Proverbs 6:26-29.

The phrase ‘his neighbour’s wife’ in the above scripture is not only referring to the wife of another man, it encompasses all ‘will be’ wives.

Dating is preparation for marriage. For a fact, not all relationships lead to marriage between the two partners. However, the person you date eventually becomes another person’s wife or husband. Ladies and gentlemen, let’s be honest here; do you find it okay that somebody somewhere should be having sex with and fondling the woman or man that will soon become your wife or husband?

Sex is to be preserved for marriage. God made it that way for a reason. And come to think of it, it is for our own good. We will be doing ourselves much good if we say no to sex and live a sexually pure life until marriage. 


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How To Overcome Sexual Temptations And Stay Sexually Pure Until Marriage

One day, a young Christian brother visited his beloved fiancée at home. As this young brother was sitting in the living room, his fiancée passed in front of him almost naked, and headed for the bathroom. The young man felt very uncomfortable with the rather inappropriate scene that he had just seen. Being the very spiritual man that he was, he instantly burst out with tongues and began praying profusely. Still praying, and with eyes closed, he felt a tap on his shoulder and upon opening his eyes… right in front of him now was his fiancée with no clothes on. Before he could say “Jack Robinson,” they were in another world. They fornicated and they both felt ashamed and disappointed because they had decided earlier to stay sexually pure until marriage.

Like the young man in the above story, every Christian, no matter his/her spiritual standing will have to face sexual temptation at least at one point in his/her life. Perhaps, the only exception would be if you became born-again on your sick bed and died afterwards. If not, then permit me to say that, every human being is vulnerable to sexual temptation. We are born curious, and it is that curiosity that causes us to take new adventures and try new things. That same curiosity if not tamed can be very deadly even to our own lives.


As mentioned earlier, almost every Christian at one point in our lives would have to deal with sexual temptation. What are the remedies available should you find yourself is such a situation? Should you pray like the young man did? What should we do when faced with sexual temptations? What does the Bible say about sex?

“Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.” – 1 Corinthians 6:18 NKJV

The scripture is plain and clear. Sexual sin is a sin against the body. And we are to flee sexual immorality. When God said flee, you don't stand and fight. The Lord our God would not ask us to flee sexual temptation if we could win the battle through prayer. When faced with sexual temptation, just flee; don't stand and pray. God said flee so you must flee!


In Ecclesiastes chapter 3, God outlined time and season for every occurrence under the sun. There is “a time to be born and a time to die, a time to plant and a time to pluck that which is planted” (Ecclesiastes 3:2). In the same way, I believe there is time to have sex and a time to flee from sex. The time to have sex is when we get married. In 1 Corinthians 6:18 quoted above, God is asking us to ‘flee’ sexual immorality. The best thing the brother in the above story should have done was to flee.

"A servant is greater than his master," Jesus said. If God says flee then you must flee. There are times in the Bible where God instructed his children to fight on, but when it came to issue of sexual temptation, He said, “run.” The LORD will not ask us to run if we would be able to overcome sexual temptation by praying.

As much as God hears our prayers, He also expects us to be obedient to His Word. And His Word says you should “flee sexual immorality.” No one can be too spiritual than God himself. And as a matter of fact, no amount of spirituality is enough to stand and fight when faced with sexual temptation. I believe that is why God instructs his beloved children to flee. Don’t hesitate and don’t anticipate, just run, run for your life! Let your legs help you as much as they could and run for your life!

Joseph Fled and So Must You!

The story of the Christian Brother at the beginning of this post is similar to the story of Joseph and Portiphar’s wife as recorded in the Bible. The significant difference between the two stories is that Joseph did the right thing; he fled. The Bible says, “And she[Portiphar’s wife] caught him[Joseph] by his garment, saying, Lie with me: and he left his garment in her hand, and fled…”- Genesis 39:12.

Dear reader, Christian living is a call to holiness and purity. God's desire for every believer is that we will live sexually pure and holy lives. The Lord wants us to stay sexually until marriage. But how can one stay sexually pure until marriage in a sex-crazy world?


The Bible says we were bought at a price and thus must honour God with our bodies which are God’s (1 Corinthians 6:20). Living pure for the LORD means we must win the battle against sexual temptations. The good news here is that we now know what to do when faced with sexual temptations. Do not hesitate, run! Run!! Run!!!


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The Purity Code: A Sexual Code of Conduct

The call of God to be Christians also comes with it a special call to holiness and purity. The Apostle Peter wrote, “…ye are a chosen generation, a royal priesthood, an holy nation, a peculiar people; that ye should shew forth the praises of him who hath called you out of darkness into his marvelous light; which in time past were not a people, but are now the people of God: which had not obtained mercy, but now have obtained mercy.” – 1 Peter 2:9-10 KJV. In this post, we will look at how to stay sexually pure until marriage using the Purity Code.